There are some families who are so toxic that they are hazardous to your health.You have one of them. If you feel significantly worse after contact with any of them, then your obligation to yourself is to part company or at least reduce your time with them so that they do not "infect" you. Try to understand that a bad family is worse that no family at all. You do not have any obligation to be a member of a group of people who act like they hate you .I have listed below some behaviours which are toxic to children( and adults). If any of these apply to your family, get away and build a live of your own.
Alcoholism
Drug abuse
Chronic gambling
Rigid religious practises
Physical abuse\Sexual abuse
Verbal abuse
Fierce competition between the parents.
Ongoing power struggles.
Chronic unemployment
Problems with the law/ arrests
This list goes on, I hope that you can find a better life...Ken

Jasmine,
if you are out there I would really like to dialogue with you. I did a web search for "family scapegoat" and your message was the only hit among dozens that came from the heart of someone who's been there. I am a family scapegoat bigtime. I started running away from home at the age of 13 (I'm 44 now and a single mom). Somehow, I constantly get sucked back in. Now my parents bought a house just a few blocks from me... I do not want to give up the only home I have ever really felt like home in. But at this point its really really getting me down. I need the strength to say no when it its necessary, which is getter harder and harder now that my parents are elderly and frail and in need. Let me know if you can offer some support.. I could use a friend who understands the feelings.
Sincerely,
laluki

I support you in your desire to get away form your abusers! I was also physically and emotionally abused by my family.

The way I "got out" was that I told them I might be able to have a relationship with them if they would go to therapy. They chose not to go to therapy, so the decision was really theirs. That way I didn't have to feel any guilt about it, not that I should anyway!

I feel so much happier without them!!!!!!! I miss having a family, but then again, I missed having a family when I used to be incontact with them, too. I never really had a family as far as I was concerned!

Since then, I have made my onw little 'family" of friends, and my two wonderful little cats. I feel much better about myself now and I am much happier.

Hi Jasmine!
No one cuts off their family without a good reason. It's the hardest thing I've ever done, and I still struggle with having no support. I did it two years ago. I'm 58 now, and ruined my own life because I believed what They said about me. But I can tell you this: I WILL NEVER GO BACK TO THEM. There were so many last straws, so if I could have my time again I would have done it much sooner. I wish you luck. xx