A lot of guys do not like to go down on their wifes. My guy loves to and I love it as well. We don't always do that, but it is part of our love making. Ask him why he does like to. Insist that you are clean and will not give him any diseases. Tell him that you love it done and that you love giving him oral sex and show you the same respect.

You may try another woman or guy, but once they start giving you this on a regular basis, you may not want to be with you boy friend or soon to be husband.

Denied sexual pleasure can add a lot of pressure to a relationship. If you feel like you will spend the rest of your life dreaming about it and frustrated, then chances are that at some point you will feel like you are going to burst and give in to finding someone else. Like the previous poster said, once you find someone else and you are getting it, the emotional charge added to the experience will make you dislike being with the person who has been denying you all this time.
Life sometimes gives us these really hard places where we have to make very difficult decisions. Either life with a person you know and trust, but with the constant yearning for sexual fulfillment, or sexual fulfillment at the expense of a good and lasting relationship.
In arriving at your final decision, I would carefully weigh your options based on your age, temperament and ability to strike up another rewarding relationship. Some say sex isn't everything, and for sure it isn't, but by the same token, life without it when you know you could be having it, begins to feel like no life at all. This is where so many divorces come in. Divorce is not such a terrible thing for someone who is young and childless, but once children enter the picture, it is more than just your life involved. How do you think you would feel knowing that you are divorcing your husband and leaving your children with a broken home because you weren't getting oral sex? You may not be able to identify with this situation yet, but when you become a parent, you a thinking person like you certainly appear to be, it will cross your mind. Think hard honey, you don't want to mess up the rest of your life for a bad decision one way or the other.
Please let us know what you do.

hI, I would say alot depends on how much you love him. YOu have been together along time. You are not comlpaining about your sexual relationship in general.

I think you have to way up the good and not so good things about your relationship. I think you will have to decide this one for yourself. He is not depriving you of sex.

Is your relationship not worth much, much, more than having to rate it on whether you get oral sex or not. I think you said that it was.IF he does not provide you with enough stimualtion in other ways in order to orgasm....then you may have a problem.

Hi,

I will try to be a little more helpful this time. YOu like your boyfriend alot so it is important to try and work through this.

Up until now your boyfriend has been getting away, with getting it all from you without giving it back. He does not have any ditaste of oral sex when he is the reciever. You could try being less giving and coaxing, rather than demanding that he go along with your wishes. As the other person said you do not want to go ahead with marriage until you get this sorted out. It may be that he just needs to acquire a taste for it.

When I met my husband I found oral sex offensive for a short time, but because I did not want to disapoint him I never refused. It did not take long before I was enjoying it. Perhaps this is all your boyfirend needs. I think that part of the problem for me in the beginning was that I found being forced to do something as personal as that, a turn off.Love is not something you force. MY husband has a strong personality.I enjoy recieving oral sex too, so I do understand, IT is very intimate.

Good luck.

Hope this is more helpfull.

You have got to realize that not everyone in the world is a fan of oral sex. We all know that everyone in pornos do it, but pornos are not reflective of real life and many participants are doped up. Other people just follow these type ideas without thinking. Many people are conscious of bacteria and odors, even though claimed harmless, and some would never even THINK of oral sex.
So, it is a matter of personal preference. Given this fact, no one in a relationship should be asked to do sexual practices that they do not care for. You got to ask yourself "Is this something you absolutely must have?" If so, you're going to have to make a decision to move on..since you would never want your partner to feel uncomfortable during sex...that wouldn't work either.

Hi just a reply to your message.You cant force someone to do something they dont like because you like to give it to him doesnt mean he likes it.But if it is very important to you then maybe you are not compatible it seems like it is so in the long run do you think this will fade or become more of a problem.The thing about being with someone is that you are totally compatible if it is important (no matter how trivial or not )then that should be something you shouldnt have to sacrifice.Its like if you were a boss and wanted someone who can type and speak french and answer the phone, and you take someone who speaks french answers the phone but doesnt type would you take them?no because they dont meet your needs...simple really.Find someone who meets your needs or alternatively stop giving him OS and see if he misses it....if he doesnt then this isnt a big issue for him so he wont really understand why you need it so much but i dont think ive met men who dont like it so just see.Maybe you are too willing to give and he isnt meaning you should find someone who is more like you.

I'm in a similar situation, I like to give it but my B/F doesn't. I tried talking to him about it one time but he got embarrassed and defesive and it killed the mood. He told me he does it when he's in the 'mood'. We've been together for a year and so far he's been in the mood twice.

The thing is though, I've tried to put myself in his shoes and imagine what I'd feel like if he were pressuring me to give him head and I had some sort of aversion to it. I'd feel violated and probably kinda yucky about it. I'd figure if he didn't love me enough not to make me do that just for his pleasure then I didn't really want to be with him.

When I gave some thought to it like this, I dropped it completely. Now, if he decided to do it of his own accord I would consider it a wonderful surprise.

Selfish guy get rid of him now instead of being miserable for a lifetime

This is a true delemma. Here's how I make tough decisions along the way. If my honey doesn't fulfill 75% of my expectations in ANYTHING, be it sex, companionship, parenting, spiritual, income, time alone, communication...whatever, then I examine closely. You've asked a very important question at the perfect time...BEFORE MARRIAGE. Well done. Wish more women examined their relationships as closely and honestly as you. If OS is truly that important to you now, it will be magnified 10 fold when married, and you will use it against him. Yes you will. This one item will become an arguement point even though he satisfies you in every way other than with thy tongue. Count on it. Only you can answer yes or no if this could be a major problem down the line and force unnecessary pain and suffering to both of you. If you marry him expecting the tongue, knowing he doesn't tongue, then you deserve no tongue. He won't change. Believe me, this is who he is. He doesn't like the taste of tuna, like many guys out there. Maybe you should find a guy who loves it. He'll probably lack some of the special qualities that this guy has, but at least a priority will have been met. Maybe this guy now has a sweet, decent personality but won't lick you into orbit. The next guy may be a sarcastic prick but loves to go down and make you go up. You make that call...taking the good with the back. Weigh the good vs. bad qualities and proceed from there.

No you don't have to accept it. NO matter what his explanation is, you deserve the full package: love, marriage and sex. Don't settle for less.