Im not sure. she only 29 we got married young and she trying to find herself. She is so unsure of herself right now amongst other things. And she is developing a drinking problem i think.

i dont have any insurance at the time can you direct me to somewhere that maybe free. I am a former entertainer that went from hardly seeimg his familt to wanting to spend all of my time with them. I really just wanted to be a soccer dad and a loving husband and you are right i turned into being needy. But i will say this we used to be very affectionate towards each other and the complements werent a problem then. She got me how I am now. Again I was an entertainer that had my way with women but she taught me how to love now its all of a sudden too much? She is my first love. I def plan on toning it down and I have. What is discouraging is too hear other women say they would love their mates to do the things that I do, but I believe yiou are right I need to find a balance. We are gonna go on a marriage retreat in the following months snd when we get our insurance in order we plan on seeking counseling individually and together. And another problemis she stop going to church no its just been me and the children going.

My husband was never needy, just denied, his family and myself tried to cut him out again yesterday, we thought people that we invited to my husbands house were more important than he was, we assumed he would compromise and leave until we called him home. As is said to assume makes an ass out of you and me.
He destroyed traditions that we built over thirty years without him. We just never included him in them, screamed, cajoled, acted hurt, cried and out right threatened violence on his person if he did not work every day 12 hours, we did not allow him a life, we thought we were doing the bidding of the community, well yesterday he tore our conceptions of what our rights in the matter were out of our chest. Embarrassed us, told opened the door and said if we did not like the rules he set in his home there was the street, put your feet on it and go where you can make the rules, He told his own father that the only arm I was going to be on yesterday was his and his fathers friends could take a flying leap. His father objected and was ejected. He said what has been the problem this year all you have to do is back down, My husband stopped backing down last year. His anger management councilors have given up. We called then today about yesterdays events. They said you have spent 39 years creating this monster you might have to live with it until the anger runs its course. They said and that's going to be a very long time considering he feels he is owed a back life of 32 years.

Hi Victorias,
you should check out the blog and forum from Athol Kay. His work specifically addresses this problem. I don't know if it is too late for you and your ex but at least the information will help you both from making the same mistakes.

Read five languages of love by Gary Chapman