www.livestrong.com/article/258607-what-herbs-decrease-the-female-libido/
to answer my own question, but any other input would be greatly appreciated!
First off - I'm a guy. Second - I've been around for a while.
Why would a woman wish to lower her sex drive? The most vibrant, most open and honest females that I've been around in my life have not only acknowledged their high sex drive but embraced it (no pun intended). Hormones and sex are a gift from the gods and to deny them will cause one nothing but trouble. I've seen it over and over again and so have you.
The primary reason that men wish to control or subdue females is because - they can't keep up with them in bed! (Except perhaps Charlie Manson.) It's why they trash them, blame them when a child is produced (instead of themselves) and a host of other ancient male phobias.
Love what is truly yours and if you in fact have a hormonal issue - higher than norm, find that out for certain before cutting off an important part of your very existence.
You're not batty. What you are experiencing is your 2nd chakra - a part of your spiritual energy system - an energy center just below your naval. You and another person, have created a sexua| energy connection between the two of you (a guy in this case) and it is often times really pleasurable. First off, you don't have to act on it, you can simply enjoy it. Many folks turn on their 2nd chakra sexua| energy at the start of the day and simply allow it to run which creates a nice feeling throughout their entire energy system (which is what those who practice Tantra do). Second, what I've discovered is that the more pleasurable you find that sexua| energy connection to another person the more sexually compatible you are. That is, the more that you enjoy the same types of sexua| activities. You will find that this can happen with people you've never ever met before in your life while shopping in a grocery store, riding a bus, walking down the street, sitting at your favorite bar, etc. Again, you do not have to act on it because you as spirit are in control of your own reality. Also many times that other person would never acknowledge that they are either attracted to you or in fact horny. It's part of learning what we are doing as spirit which is different than what our body thinks we are doing. Also that 2nd chakra connection has nothing to do with love. Love is a 4th chakra/heart chakra attraction. People get really confused on this level.
These spiritual connections have no ethics. Zero. It is bodies which have imposed ethics and control. In the Garden of Eden story (which is found in many religions) it was Adam and Eve who "discovered" that they were naked. In fact, god quit walking with them as soon as they put on clothes. Speaking of ethics/religion Solomon's Song of Songs was almost left out of the bible because of its eroticism.
We as a society have been programmed to deny our bodies on many levels and it can cause all sorts of distress including anxiety, depression, and downright illness. A part of living is learning to give to our bodies in many ways from sex, to spas, to aromatherapy, to a walk in the forest, and on and on. Our fast paced fear based society has denied all sorts of body desires and caused a load of problems that aboriginal humans never had. Am not at all suggesting that we become aborigines but letting our hair down from time to time and enjoying our bodies however we do it is a healing too.
http://www.myintuition.net/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&...
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Cords have different meaning when they connect into different chakras. A cord going into your first chakra from another person usually means that they need some information on surviving. They could want money, food, or security from you. Small children receive survival information from their parents or whoever takes care of them. If this cord is severed, then the child is unsettled. The cord later is naturally removed when the child becomes self-sufficient and manufactures his or her own survival information.
Cords connecting the second chakra to second chakra in two people usually relates to attraction. A man or woman will send a line of energy into the second chakra if he or she is interested in the other person. I once saw a married woman who experienced energy cords into her second chakra from single men. Flirtatious co-workers and grocery store workers turned her on. She did not want these cords in her second chakra because she wanted to remain faithful to her husband. She realized that she had thoughts and pictures stored in her aura from earlier in her life allowing these energy connections into her.
"You are so invested in trying to get women to enjoy this, it makes me think you have probably been sexually molested, and wonder if you are in the habit of fantasizing about women when you masturbate."
I have no investment in "trying to get women to enjoy this" I've only posted what is. Many folks, both men and women in our society have literally cut themselves off from sexua| enjoyment because of the Victorian Era repression that still lingers with us today. (The circumcision of boys was promulgated during Victorian times because it was believed to discourage masturbation. It doesn't. In fact it dismembers more than 35% of all penile nerves and is simply a form of genital mutilation just as is practiced in the Eastern world on females. 75% of the time it is done without anesthesia - and believe me, bodies remember everything that has ever happened to them.) We've become a nation (USA) of fearful prudish masochists whose main pleasure is derived from bashing others be it mental, sexual, or spiritual. If you don't enjoy sex then don't pursue it. Those that pursue Tantric sex (I'm not one of them) do it as a spiritual pursuit and I see nothing wrong with it.
If you're aware of others invading your reality during their fantasies it is because you are allowing it. There are spiritual invasions and there are spiritual protections as well. You do not have to give yourself up spiritually any more than you do physically. Spiritual protection begins with grounding. I've been practicing spiritual healing and spiritual protection for many years and it is a process, a step by step process.
Yes I was sexually molested as a small child - by both genders of adults. Didn't even know it was "molestation" until I hit PTSD - which I successfully faced and cured with meditation. You are so right about awareness. It seems that those who have been abused the most have the greatest awareness and instead of viewing it as a curse I view it and all of my abuse as a fabulous gift. Through all if it, it has led to healing beyond anything that I could have ever imagined when I first began my spiritual healing journey decades ago - and my healing journey is not finished. Nobody's is or they wouldn't still be on the Planet.
Thanks for your explanation. Sorry for your difficulties.
You are very much aware. What I've found is that cords are tied to pictures. We need to let go of the pictures that they are getting in on to let go of the cord. A "picture" is a concept with a lie in it such as being told that because we were abused we are somehow "dirty." It is not true, we know that, but so many times it is so ingrained in us that it is difficult to let go.
I had a wonderful friend a few years ago who's abuse story and that of her sisters was unbelievable. Particularly in light of the fact that she was married and operating successfully in society and gainfully employed at the time I knew her. After many months/years of abuse as a child she was impregnated by her father at about age 13 and when she told her school counselor about it she was removed from the family and went to live in a foster home along with her sisters who had also been incestually abused. In foster care her foster father sexually abused them as well. Won't go into more because it could take a long, long time. I haven't seen this wonderful person in several years but do know that her husband was cheating on her and openly taking his lover to their church where she herself was shunned because the congregation blamed it onto her! I broke off from her because she wished to be intimate with me and I will not interfere with a marriage no matter how screwed up it is. This person turned to her religion and tried to live a virtuous life within a relationship. She told me of her sister who she said was a beautiful woman who slept with any guy she could get hold of. My point here is that sexua| abuse will affect each and everyone of us in a very different way. She said her sister died at age 35 of alcohol abuse and that many men showed up for the funeral.
Those who have been abused have a difficult time with self image. All that I can say is that we are each a part of god and we have to recognize that. I know I took on the energy of my abusers and believed for years that it was all my fault thinking that even though I was a child I was the instigator. I then had to live with them until adulthood and live with the energy too. That's where they get you. It's the recognition that we are each a part of god and that we are loved by the All That Is regardless what's happened in the past. It's been a journey and I continue that journey with a bump in the road from time to time but with that awareness (not knowledge - awareness as you know, which is different than knowledge) which is my motivation.
You can teach everyone a lot.
I wasn't volunteering.
Our society is so prudish it's a wonder that people can even look into the mirror - both the one on the wall, and the one that peers inside one's self. I understand your dilemma and for each one the solution will be different. Having lived with a female or two for many years I know that your body is so different than mine that I can't even begin to understand the inner workings and I doubt that most doctors do either. But an herb to lower your hormones will lead to other problems - won't it?
I didn't have an open relationship but we always had open communication into intimate desires and wishes and if you were a good friend of mine I'd suggest you invest in a Sybian - whether you have a partner or not.
http://www.sybian.com/sybianindex.html
Hope that your weekend - and future goes well for you.