From the Astonishing Power of Emotions - Abraham-Hicks

“…when you believe someone else must do something different so that you can feel better, you are truly at a disadvantage, for you have no control over what they do. When you understand that the way you feel has only to do with the alignment of your own thought Energy, and you work to bring yourself into alignment – independent of anyone else’s behavior – now you are empowered. Now you really are free.”

“If you become dependent upon being able to solicit improved behavior from others in order to make yourself feel better, you are really going about life the hard way. It is limiting at best, and debilitating at worst. When you understand that you can control the way you feel because you can control the downstream direction of your own thoughts, now you are continually in alignment…now you consistently feel good. You come back into your own power, your power of influence is tremendous, and you thrive all round. We want to also add that controlling your own direction of thought, which improves the way you feel, is relatively easy, while getting someone else to change their behavior is extremely difficult, if not impossible.”

From an Abraham workshop:

"As you're interacting with so many others, and there is the tendency to care about who's right or who's wrong, we want you to realize that there are endless courses of action that could net you similar results. And when you are approaching life by debating those different actions that could or should be taken, instead of debating how you feel inside whatever action you are choosing. In other words, we would like to say to all of you, you could choose a path; Esther could be pretty sure that Jerry is utterly wrong in the choice that he is making about a route or hooking something up or any other number of things. She could be certain that his choice could be a better one, but if she will relax and reach for the best feeling thought she can find, the Universe will right it. But IF you decide that something is wrong, and you stand in that defensive place trying to justify it, then you don't let the Universe right it because you're bucking the current that would right it."