A good and sound community can only grow if a man and woman are bonded in a soul relationship through the sacred contract called marriage.  Allah (SWT) is the founder of the family, and Adam and Howa were members of the first family structured by Allah (SWT)........

Many times it is considered Ib (not liked) when an older woman past her prime thinks of marriage.  It should be a time to study and worship more and accept ones decree or destiny.  I sat with a woman today and she has left her husband and her complaint is he robbed her of her life., ddaaaa

No body can lose anything that Allah has not decreed. I lost my life too.  I am 57, alone and working my butt off to support myself.  Did I get robbed of my life or did Allah give me time to reflect and be tested.  Lately I have had so many problems and I try to understand the reasons.  I am beginning to think about moving.

I have lost much this last year and I am tired.  No marriage is not an answer for me and it never will be but I do think for many it is the answer.  Staying close to Allah is better.  I am blessed for sure. I have a job writing for two companies.  I have 8 writers who write with me on twitter and have many pages there.  Just bought new furniture and I have a home and roof over my head.

Last year I dared all of you to depend on Allah for substance and I did too. Within one week I had a job and I have steadily improved.  Sometimes hardships brings realities.  The reality is that life does not deal us everything we planned but Allah is the best planner.

Did I get robbed of my life, daaa no.  I have had a very wonderful life and I am indeed blessed.  I hope this rambling made sense and someone on the wide internet will get a better understanding that men do not provide a woman with happiness. Sometimes men are nothing but misery.  Marry in Islam for the pleasure of Allah, but if you don't marry understand that real happiness and inner peace come from inside not from a gold ban on your finger.

Barbi Trejo

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