first have healthy habit, constituetion, (body), - stronge energy then change thoughts to use well you energy and have more of it. the last thing you learn is the truth of youself and that needs the wisdom out of yourself as the change goes into that good energy. you will never get this from others now you have to get it from your own very life. you are not ego anymore unlit you are still a nought boy. hungry for other's pleasure. where is your? seek it! it is there waiting for you to receive, ask for it it will be given.