Here's an idea for you Aharleygirl - go join the Sierra Club - get out in the fresh air - make some friendships - just friendships with both women and men - go for hikes - see the countryside down there in San Diego. Give it a chance - sunshine - fresh air - godd company - no need to worry about sex - just make friends - there are a lot of nice men out there. I was alone for many many years and when I was 53 I met the man I am with today - guess where? at a meditation group. But if I hadn't met him it would still have been o.k. - I has learned to like my aloneness and I wasn't there to find a man. Try some new things girl and get out of this depression. Go over to the beach and walk around. You need to make friends down there in S.D....
I'm sure you will find your way out of this doldrum.
between you and me - I don't have a great big sex drive anymore either but it can still come back once in a while and my love and I enjoy each other in numerous ways - we love to just cuddle and we love being together and we are each others best friend. Before him I was just enjoying lots of friendships with both men and women.
Don't mean to lecture but you remind me of myself in the past and I care - you are very beautiful too!