Re: Is it asperger's or is my teen just fed up and shutting down

Do you realize that you said "I have done alot of what..."? Are YOU the person that you are concerned about here or is SHE the person you are concerned about? I know you were speaking about HER being on the regimen of vitamins, etc., but that is a big problem...YOU are what you are concerned about. Step back and recognize HER as having the right to be in control of her life.

I used to be a kid. When I was 6 years old, I fell on my head in the park and developed epilespsy (I took medication and I grew out of it in my teens). At six years old, my parents ("diagnosed") LABELLED me as having a learning disability (foolishly, rush to criticism) and when I was 8, they took me to a specialist and he told them of their "mistake". The 2 yrs. of being labelled in school as (in effect) an intellectual misfit was certainly not a big help to me at that age (you did notice that you said "I", didn't you?, my impression was that the child is the person of concern, are you giving her a stigma/reputation to live up to?). Of course, it was okay with my parents that they labelled me (it didn't bother THEM, and they certainly weren't concerned that it bothered/mattered to me), they considered it perfectly normal for them to have a condescending attitude toward me.


She wouldn't be introverted if she weren't the household "NOBODY".

You can...
1) get defensive (this is exactly what "I" would do)
2) or you can address reality and give HER recognition and respect as a human being (give her the respect that you would give a stranger).

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