Re: Question involving friendship with a friend in a relationship

You were able to meet her fiance and he "seemed nice." You are conveying a number of flapping, screaming red flags where this guy is concerned:

http://www.heartlessbitches.com

provides a grocery list of red flag behaviors and a whirlwind, immediate relationship is one of them. The next is immediate isolation from friends and family. There are a list of others that will probably apply to your friend.

Unfortunately, she is an adult and will have to do as she pleases and there isn't a thing that you can do to help her, at this point. I would let my friend know that I just wanted to wish her well and how she can keep in touch with me if she ever needed anything. Chances are, she WILL need help within the next year or two as this "nice" guy begins to unpeel his True Self like an onion.

The Narcissism/Sociopathy Forum has a lot of information on what your friend has (more than likely) gotten herself involved with. Also, there are websites that address NPD:

http://www.healthline.com


http://www.ptypes.com/narcissisticpd


http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/narcissistic-p


http://www.stoptheviolence.org


If you "Google:" narcissism or narcissistic personality disorder, you will be rewarded with a host of sites that explain what NPD is, the symptoms, etc.

For now, there isn't a thing in the world that you can do for your friend other than to let her know that your door is open to her - that she has a safe place to go if she ever needs one.

Best wishes to you and your friend.