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I appreciate your sentiment. It is not uncommon for the non-NPD to lose everything to the NPD if they leave or divorce. The NPD is very cunning in manipulation and convolution. They can take the most mundane event and turn it into "evidence" that the non-NPD is as crazy as a sh*thouse rat. The legal system can only rule on what they "see" and not what is alleged - how many spouses out there will tell, in open court, the details of what has been perpetrated against them without falling to pieces on the stand or taking an extremely defensive posture during testimony? The NPD comes off looking like the picture of rationality while the victim looks like a raving lunatic. With a proper attorney - one who specializes in domestic violence and abuse - such outcomes as mine could be avoided because there does come a point and time where the NPD has lost track of the thread of lies that they've invented and they will trip and fall over their own arrogance. Most often, by the time someone has made a decision to leave their NPD, they are so frantic that common sense (in MY case) is overruled by the desire to run and I made many errors in my divorce proceedings.

Like I said, I lost my children, but they were never really "my children." They were required to adopt whatever view that their father maintained - to develop their own personalities, beliefs, or goals was unthinkable. If either of them were to attempt to defy their father's "rules," they would suffer incredible humiliation and degradation, and I would suffer more than that as he would accuse me of "undermining (his) authority."

Today, both of my sons are varying degrees of narcissists and they choose to have nothing to do with me since I won't feed their supplies. They have each become bigotted racists, women-haters, and utterly disdainful of any/all authority, including the Legal System. Instead of making a futile effort to develop relationships with my offspring, I surround myself with positive people who have evolved into my "family."