well i have spoken with him about this and it is a real self esteem issue with himself. He also had really bad sex times in the past too. Wiuthout going into too much about it....i wouldnt want to ever have sex again if this happened to me. Its something we are going to work out together and i think its going to be great. Now, is there anything that a woman can take to lower a sex drive? I have always had an issue with a high sex drive and i dont want it anymore. 10 times a day would be perfect for me...no one can fulfill that. I also wanted to ask you how you feel about asexuality. I think he might be one. He is completly happy in a romantic relationship without having sex everyday. Two times a month is ok with him.