Re: When is it enough to divorce him?

"Codependent" is a term with which I am completely familiar. I was emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially, and sexually abused by my ex-spouse. When I finally announced that I wanted a divorce, my abuser finally consented to attending marriage counseling. Of course, it did not "save the marriage," but it did prove to me that I was not the one that was crazy, nor did I have to accept my spouse's illness.

Opting OUT of an abusive relationship is difficult and, sometimes, potentially fatal. Before doing ANYthing, consult an attorney (there are attorneys who work pro bono for women's rights), and contact your local Social Services office to see if there are any resources available for you (and, your son) help you in any capacity.

Always consult professionals in such ticklish situations. In addition, keep a running log of all conversations, comments, behavior including dates, times, as well as YOUR responses or quotes and avoid (at all costs) embellishment or emotional comments: keep it objective.

And, don't take "codependecy" as an insult - this, too, shall pass, particularly now that you are aware of how sick your husband really is!

BEST of luck to you, my dear!