Re: self- help vs. victimization

It is so easy to stay in the victim role, particuilarly if you have been brought up to believe that "the powers that be" are there to serve and protect you, be it parents, teachers, doctors, law enforcement agencies, governments. Independent thinking is not supported and encouraged in this culture. (Sheep are easy to control...) I think, as in my case, you need to be at the end of your rope, to start questioning everything, and realize that many of your old values and beliefs, the ones you were "taught", don't really work for you. You have to be willing to let go of the security blanket of the old, be willing to go on an inner quest, develop the strength to be "different", "wacky", "strange", "odd", and have the courage to be judged, criticised, even loose friends and sometimes family over what you have come to believe in.
Most of you know this already, or else you would not be on this forum. The point I am trying to make is that it is a journey of transformation some of us have been pushed into, and we weathered it, and reaped the benefits. This is our karma, our life's lesson, whatever you want to call it. Others may have different lessons to learn. We don't know about those lessons. Therefore it is best not to sit in judgement of those who are not "getting" our particular life's lessons. Wasted energy, pure and simple. And, if they do sit in judgement of us, well, that's really their problem (although sometimes they try to make it ours). They simply did not "get" the part about not sitting in judgement. Easily said, not easy to do.... :-) Tweet