Re: How to deal with slander and manipulation?

Understanding is part of the key.

Everything you do is right - their actions for instance are allowing you to examine your relationship with them, that is to cease to be angry and understand that what they have done is actually propelling you towards an understanding.

It sounds very much that you are in the angry stage. If a dog is attacking you then you take what action you think is appropriate in order to survive. Trying to convince others that you are right is being drawn back into the drama. Try if you can to step away from what is happening think of it as an illusion. Recognize your anger and write. You will thank them for providing you means for release.

The forgiveness stage is down the line in order to move fully away from your parents you will ultimately have to forgive otherwisee you will be drawn back to their drama.