Let me clarify something. Here is a quote from your message......
"Looking for outside factors to blame is not the way to solve marital (or any other kind) of problem as it abdicates any kind of responsibility."
I am NOT LOOKING FOR OUTSIDE FACTORS TO BLAME. I just thought it would be interesting to know if our numbers were incompatible. I love my husband, and we are working out our difficulties. They are basically just "newly wed" problems such as money problems and the like. The fact that you would insinuate that I am trying to abdicate any responsibility for my actions in my marriage or otherwise puts me off. You know nothing about our problems other than what I have said.