OK let us imagine for sake of argument that there was "something in your numbers" that was "working against you". Presumably this would be a function of your birthdays, wedding day, day you met. What exactly about these dates could you remedy? Are you going to change your birthday?

If "something" is working against you (based on these dates) then it is still going to be working against you regardless of what you do since these dates are fixed.

It seems to me that marital problems exist in all marriages. Whether they strengthen or break a marriage is up to the people involved in that marriage. Looking for outside factors to blame is not the way to solve marital (or any other kind) of problem as it abdicates any kind of responsibility.

It is only when we take responsibility for the situations we find ourselves in can we take effective action. Whether that is chronic illness or a relationship which isn't as we imagined it to be.

You have some similarities that I often find in married couples:

her: 9 - 17/8 - 1967/23/5

Him: 8 - 27/9 - 1970/17/8

He has your 8 twice. You have his 9 once. So you're twins energetically with your cycles of life being very similar. You also will have the same personal year vibration. You're currently both in a 4 year. :)

Your life lesson # = 4
His = 7

Here's where the issues are going to come from the most. You are very pragmatic, down to earth, hard working, and only sometimes fluctuate into a being who's a total slob and disorganized. ;) For you, HOW you do something is just as important as the final result. Be sure to let others handle things in their own way. Take responsibility for what's bugging you and change your attitude rather than asking others to change their methods.

For him, he's more of a "let it slide" kind of person, doesn't matter how it's done so long as it's done and likes to just get it done himself. He doesn't see things as structured, organized, and probably overlooks a lot of the fine details, the mud of day-to-day living and housekeeping. PLUS he's born on the 9th day, which makes him the ultimate democrat and humanitarian. He'll want to please and avoid scenes, confrontations.

He's challeged by the 1, which means he's not great at stating his needs or delegating. He tends to assume things are agreed upon even when things haven't been discussed, or that you know things even tho he hasn't told you. Until he learns that he's here to help people and must have tons of autonomy in his work, preferably be self-employed, competitive, the world will offer him awful work situations.

I could see the two of you being independent contractors with him doing the actual hands-on work and you being the accountant. You need a clear division of labor or you'll butt heads.

This year the focus must be on getting things organized. There won't be many lucky breaks this year, it's a year of "as you sow so shall you reap." Next year is a better year for winning the lottery, moving, travel. This is a nose to grindstone year. If you do it right, you could be sitting pretty next year!

Hope that helps! :)