LOL! Oh dear, sorry if I was too hard on you, but I figured you could handle it. ;) Trying to alter/enlarge one's paradigm into a shift often requires really blunt language if you know what I mean!!!
I don't doubt you have had some real challenges from the world that had nothing to do with you, weren't caused by you, but you still have every choice about how you deal with what the universe dishes out. :) So I tried to address that side of the equation.