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Hi

Let me point out the good and bad things about your relationship as I see them:

Bad:

1. Lies are bad- big or small- because lying goes on to becoming a habit- and any relationship that is not based on complete honesty does die out in time -because it is not based on the truth which surfaces sooner or later and makes the other feel betrayed and element of faith in the relationship goes off- which I believe is the foundation of the relationship. May be you should talk it our with him and tell him that you don't mind hearing the truth even if it hurts you- thats the only way you'll know where you stand and what is wrong with the compatibility aspect.

2. I don't understand this family thing. Does he say he will not marry you against him family's wishes? If that is the case and a marriage is what you are looking for, there is no reason why you should stay on in the relationship irrespective of your feelings- no matter how intense they are.

Good (maybe - maybe not)

You both love each other despite the ups and downs- thats good but don't mistake emotional/physical dependence for love. Sometimes we just get so used to having each other around that it is hard to live without them even though we know its doing you more harm than good. A relationship is about sharing- not about pain, crying and fights most of the time.I may be wrong but to me that seems to be the case. Love transcends all these little factors. You would not be having these little fights if you really respected each other which must come before loving each other. Its important to respect each others wishes and know what is important to the other- thats the only way to a healthy relationship.

No not all men are the same. It would not be fair to generalize.

Think about it and we'll talk again if you wish.
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