Is my friend cheap or just broke???

Hi,

I’ve been seeing a guy for about 3 months and he has been divorced for about a year and a half, he’s also recently relocated and not very financially stable. He quit a really good job to help his somewhat sick mom and to get away from the constant feuding with his ex-wife. He seems to be a good guy and does pay child support. He isn’t interested in a commitment at this time but he likes spending time with me. We talk a lot and I feel that he tries to be honest with me. I on the other hand am looking for commitment and have made the mistake of expecting too much from him. It gets a little confusing because we got into a groove of spending a lot of time together and it seems like we were committed. He says he doesn’t want to see anyone else but the commitment seems like more than he can handle.

I often feel like he’s not just broke but cheap. We spend most of our time together at home and early in our relationship we went to a few free concerts, he’s helped me with some things around my house and a few flat tires – which I think is sweet. I really don’t mind the evenings at home sometime but I feel like he takes advantage of it. I’ve told him to take me out and he does a few things but thats it. I cook dinner for us a lot and feel like a wife in some ways. We talked about it and have started to spend less time together. He tells me to just take it easy and enjoy or time together and if anything more comes from it then it will.

Yesterday he mentioned that he wanted to see the movie Chicago and I said I had wanted to see that also. He says well since I’m really broke right now then why not treat us both on Friday. Which is Valentine’s Day. I said no way. I’ve been asking you to take me out and nothing. He just came back from a trip were he stayed with a friend but had to have SOME money for gas. He says that women want to be equal in every way except that. I’m pretty old fashioned and I don’t feel comfortable with him asking. I’m worried that I’m not being fair. What do you guys think?


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