Re: How can I let 5 years slip away?

Well, I’m not great at giving advice, but I went through a very similar thing to you and it did get better. It hurt like hell for months afterwards, I just went through the motions of life for a long time, until I picked myself up and moved on. I still think of him occasionally today, over 2 years down the line, so I don’t think you will ever forget your first love, but you can move on. Of course it will be harder to get over seeing him everyday, but you can do it. You’ve done well so far, but I think you need to accept that its over, maybe you should be firmer with him and tell him again to stop ringing you, this doesn’t appear to be doing you any favours, I bet everytime he rings, you start thinking again and get hopeful? He just seems to be messing you about at the moment. Ask yourself this, if he really still loved you, would he be treating you as he is, knowing that hes hurting you? It sounds to me as soon as he finds someone else, he’ll stop contact with you altogether. I think hes just using you as a stop gap and has already made his mind up and is stringing you along. You may still want to be friends but I don’t think thats possible, you’ll never be able to forget what you had together. It does get better, but it will take time, do you have interests outside work? Go out with friends and try new experiences? I found it helped take my mind off things. You’ll probably find you meet someone else when you least expect it. It may take you a long time to heal (I’m not the same person I was before) but, do it for yourself, cut him out of your life, and you’ll find you can get through this. I don’t know if this helps. Tweet