Hey Roman, You say that your girlfriend is confusing superficial romance with true,deep love ---I disagree.She is not confused at all! It is you who are confused here.
She is happy enough to do whatever you do together, but, from your post it is GLARING that she does not want a permanent deepening relationship.If she did, you would know it- women are very clear when sending signals about these issues.Her reluctance to return your affection and caring is her way of saying that this is as far as you two are going together. I have no idea why she has stalled , but she has. If you want a closer bond with a woman, you better find one who also wants that. Your girlfriend does not want what you want, so move along and find someone who is in the same place as you and wants the same things as you do...John.