Well, it goes like this NY. If you're "...sexy, smart, and well-educated" and still lonely, there's something YOU'RE DOING WRONG. Could it be "personality"? Could be. Could it be that you're just dreadful at choosing friends? Maybe. It's really tough to decipher the truth on a message board like this because we don't know the truth about you. Are you bitchy? I know plenty of bitches that are sexy...and lonely. Are you overly-competitive? Plenty of lonely women climbing the corporate ladder out there. Examine how others react to you, not you to them but strangers and acquaintances to you. My bet is that you are not approachable, not easy to talk with, and somewhat detached. Am I getting warm? Sexy, well-educated women HAVE FRIENDS and HAVE RELATIONSHIPS. You say that you don't...hmmmm...