I think you’re right, I don’t like the idea of going behind someone’s back to have a relationship. Besides, my wife is one smart lady, she’d find out anyway. It’s one of the possibilities I’m looking at, but I don’t think it’s the way I want to go. It’s too complicated.
But your idea of separating is a good one. A separation is a way for us to both get some perspective in our lives. Then we could see what we wanted to do.