I like your answer to this persons dilemma best Rusfox. I am in a slightly different situation, but it still has many of the same elements. Sometimes I want to evaporate the ex-wife (that's right folks, this is not a very loving or forgiving attitude, but trust me, you don't know this lady!)
I have to often remind myself that it IS all about the children, and that they have a right to their father, even in the midst of very annoying and challenging situations. So Rusfox, I'm with you sis, I hope your man will develop the wisdom to balance himself fairly on either side when new baby comes. Maybe you ought to visit the prayer forum (smile).