i was wondering arround because i don't come when a woman is on top and i wondered if there is something wrong with me, and this is the closest thing i have found lol. my ex spoke a lot and i didn't really talk back, it was always dirty things and i really wanted to talk back seeing as i know that is what she wanted. but i never knew what to say. maybe this is the same with your man? perhaps suggesting what to say to huim before hand or leading conversation, asking him what he is doing to you and such. hope this helps.