I have to tell you... the first 4 or so times that I had intercourse with my boyfriend it HURT! The whole time I was just thinking "Well, I have to get this over with some time." I would seriously bite my tongue to keep from yelling out in pain. I couldn't wait for him to cum and have it all be over. It REALLY sucked for me... every woman is different... none of my girlfriends had this experience. In fact most of them said they felt no pain. For some reason I was different. Now I LOVE sex... I just had to go through that excruciating pain at the beginning... and it WAS excruciating. I guess I was just REALLY tight. Tell her to use a dildo to stretch herself out.