Anal sex...ridiculous

I noticed a post about how anal sex hurt the poster, but she wanted to do it for her husband. I saw a response about how a stiff penis in an anus is giong to hurt no matter what...that person is absolutely right. I find it appalling these days that men are requesting (forcing) their partners to engage in one of the most unnatural sex acts ever to arise. And many of the men who request it look at the woman as if she has grown two heads if she requests to use a dildo on THEM in the same manner. Seems pretty hypocritical to me. Women, if anal sex hurts you, then why are you continuously trying to do it just to please your husband? What about your own pleasure and comfort and safety? Sex should be intimate and not one-sided