Anal sex is NOT something that my husband ever requests or FORCES me to do, it is just something that I knew that he enjoyed (or at least was interested in) in the past so I wanted to see if we could incorporate it into our sex life.
Obvioulsy it hurts me too bad though and it'll probably never work out.
He doesn't care one way or the other whether anal sex is part of our sex life or not.
Our sex life is FAR from being one-sided. I just have never posted about the things my husband does for me.
My husband actually has had a dildo used on him "in the same manner" and he's been with men. Anal sex just doesn't hurt him the way it does me.
I have discussed this with women who say that it doesn't hurt them either and that once you figure out how to do it right it's actually very enjoyable and they like doing it and actually orgasm during anal sex.
All that being said (in a strangely conservative sex forum I might add), your advice is good for women who are in a controlling, shitty relationship.
Just know that there are couples out there who aren't manipulating and forcing eachother to do things - and they're STILL engaging (or trying to engage) in anal sex or other sexual acts said to be immoral around here.
Relationships are about making the other person happy. I'm not saying make them happy at your expense, but you should try to make them happy. My husband makes me 100% happy, and I hope that I do the same for him. We do this by not judging eachother and showing unconditional love and respect for one another. That doesn't mean that you have to encourage every %¤#&!§-thing that your partner is into or wishes to do, but you shouldn't judge them for it.
Anyway... this will probably be my last post in this forum, just because it is SO conservative. Great forum, just a little too conservative for my liking. I'm a little surprised by it. But, to each their own. Take care everyone... and never judge a book by its cover. ah... cliche'..