sorry for the rant- was just off steaming about this and forgot to add that I have come across these bizarre sites he visits full of folk dressed up in starwars outfits and that he also keeps this little hidden stash of masks (army etc.) Adds to the bizarre and perplexing picture. Yeah, shouldnt be pokng through his stuff but I am thinking he must be having an affair or something- read this quote by 'Dr. Ruth' or some other sexpert that said women can sometimes go for long periods without sex (to which I say yes, but it is damn hard) but men tend not to. Anyhow, I think this fetish could be fun and kinky but he totally shuts me out of it- he's this iceman. I am enraged about it really and am starting to think that I dont even want to have sex with him again. When we do it's totally all about him anyway.