She must be exhausted, raising 3 children. I've been through it, so I totally understand, especially when the kids are little. It's hard to feel sexy when you're up to your ears in diapers, etc. I tried to email you privately about the books, but the computer wouldn't let me. Sounds like you're off to a good start. Communication is the key here. Perhaps you could hire a baby sitter and take her away for a weekend???