Re: Does this also happen to others?

Hello, this is kind of for the origiginal post, but also for others just reading. The problem listed as wanting someone other than your spouse, or thinking of past people you have been with, is this common? Yes, I think it is all too common, it is very detrimental. How would you feel if your wife came to you and told you that you do not "rock her world" the way boyfriend #28(or whatever #) did? You would probably be hurt, angry, lose self-confidence, etc. This is one reason (among many) why some people do not believe in pre- or extra marital sex. Nothing to compare with, no issue. But speaking as a woman I would say that you need to speak with someone you trust, (preferrably some one wiser than you, not a "bud" who might tell you to get some on the side) and find a way to work through this. You care enough about your wife to marry her, promising to forsake all others and to do your best with her through sickness and health, bad and good, you gave her your name. If you trully do love her and want the best for her, give her all of you, do not reserve some of yourself for someone else, real or imaginary. Take the time and effort to work through this, do not ignore it, your marriage deserves better, it can be more fullfilling, it truly can be all you want it to be if you give it the chance, sex does not slow down in a marriage, it morphs, it becomes deeper and changes as the marriage grows to be more satisfying not just phusically but mentally as well. Good luck to you .