I agree with you totally. When I pray for someone, as I have been for Terri and her family, I ask that the healing occur under the will and direction of her soul, for her highest good and the highest good of all. Whatever that healing looks like, however that healing takes place (and healing ALWAYS take place)...... I would not dare override her will by imposing on her what makes me feel more comfortable or what I think appears to be best (illusion).
I do KNOW that Wisdom, karma, lessons and a perfect plan are at work.
I have come to understand that praying for the outcome that "I" think is best...IS manipulation. Alice Bailey, in Esoteric Healing, calls it black magic. Some healers actually work in this way.