Re: Mirrors or triggers?

Mirrors or triggers. Now I have words to put with what I have been doing for the past years. I would have a problem with certain things that otherwise nice people would do and find that it was something I did myself. I was now on the receiving end. I learned to look more carefully at the behaviors that bugged me because invariably those were where I needed work.

The anger or trigger is one I am working on now. My daughter went to college so was not around for a while. When she come home for the summer I had had a long enough time away from her to become 'desensitized'. I found that over time, instead of dealing with a way she had of manipulating me I had repressed my feelings - I think because I didn't know how to deal with it or how to teach her the correct way doing instead of being manipulative. I am watching how this goes because I think this is also something that I do, that like you say, we don't always realize how we are being until we are triggered.

The hard part for me is the time it takes to work through these things. It would be nice to be instantly fixed once you realize where you have gone wrong! But I anticipate this will take a while since she is not home as much now.

Thanks for the word pictures, they are a help in thinking about this. Tweet