I have spent the past 17 years in the funeral business and have never heard or witnessed anyone dying mad. It is always with acceptance and peace which is present when even the most difficult and hard headed individuals die. I have found this to also be true with the living and that is those who don't accept someone dying are uncomfortable with their relationship to this death. They will lash out at others and often make suggestions which are mere reflections of what they know they should be doing. They are in pain by what they say and do and it is not certainly directed to you but through you. Remember, you don't own their pain nor do you allow their words to destroy something as powerful as letting someone die in peace. This is what I call Unconditional Love.