Re: WOULD YOU BEAT YOUR CHILD if YOU LOVED HIM/HER

:-) As always, things can be said with anything!
Seriously, I really hope everyone knows that Islam does not promote wife hitting- that is absurd.
For the record- it is a command from God- to save the marriage, to correct the wife, who's role is so influeincing in a family, that she is the mother, the first teacher, his supporter, comforter, caregiver, etc. If a wife is acting abusive and abusing her husband ( it does happen, they can manipulate, play games, withdrawing affection, abuse children, etc- this is for SERIOUS crimes NOT in arguments and normal issues ) then this is there-as a LAST RESORT- in order to correct evil behaviour- nothing more-
As I stated earlier also, one must consider the fact that if this happens then the husband may not EVER hit in the face or head, and can NEVER leave a mark, leaving marks is considered (haram) Forbidden and transgression, it is not allowed in any sense or any way.
Its hard to explain, something so simple can get pumped up-to be so big- its not telling husbands to beat the very person he toils for, the dear one to his heart, his love-

(some Islamic virtues regarding women) (There are many more)
(someof these are sayings of the Holy Prophet m'hamed (peace be upon him)

Widows

A giver of maintenance to widows and the poor, is like a bestower in the way of God, an utterer of prayers all the night, and a keeper of constant fast.

I and a woman whose color and cheeks shall have become black from toiling in the sun shall be near to one another in the next world as my two fingers; and that is a dear widow, whose color and cheeks shall have become black in bringing up her family.
(works hard for her family in the absence of her husband)
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Wives

Admonish your wives with kindness. (LIVE with them in kindness)

A Muslim must not hate his wife; and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, then let him be pleased with another that is good.

Do you beat your own wife as you would a slave? That must you not do.

I (Muaviyah b. Haidah) said, "O Apostle of God! What is my duty to my wife?" He said, "That you give her to eat as you eat yourself, and clothe her as you clothe yourself; and do not slap her in the face nor abuse her, nor separate yourself from her in displeasure.

Give your wife good counsel; and if she has goodness in her, she will soon take it, and leave off idle talking; and do not beat your noble wife like a slave.

Muhammad said, "Beat not your wives." Then Omar came to the Rasul (Muhammad) and said, "Wives have got the upper hand from hearing this."

He is the most perfect Muslim whose disposition is best; and the best of you are they who behave best to their wives.

A virtuous wife is a man's best treasure.

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Women

Women are the twin halves of men. (equal)

The world and all things in it are valuable; but the most valuable thing in the world is a virtuous woman. (of all the things is this world-the Prophet says clearly- the virtuos WOMAN is the best in the WORLD)

The best women are the virtuous; they are the most affectionate to infants, and the most careful of their husband's property.

When a woman performeth the five times of prayer, and fasteth the month of Ramadan, and is chaste, and is not disobedient to her husband, then tell her to enter Paradise by whichever door she liketh.

Verily a great number of women are assembled near my family, complaining of their hubands; and those men who ill-treat their wives do not behave well. He is not of my way who teacheth a woman to stray.

Asma, daughter of Yazid, said, "Victuals were brought to Muhammad, and he put them before some of us women who were present, and said, 'Eat ye.' But notwithstanding we were hungry we said, 'We have no inclination.' Muhammad said, 'O woman! Do not mix hunger with lies.'" (He insisted on them eating.)

Whoever doeth good to girls, it will be a curtain to him from hell-fire. (whoever does good to females it protects them from Hellfire)

Whoever befriendeth two girls till they come of age, will be in the next world along with me, like my two fingers joining each other.

Whoever befriendeth three daughters, or three sisters, and teacheth them manners, and is affectionate to them, till they come of age, may God apportion Paradise for him.

Whoever hath a daughter, and doth not bury her alive or scold her, or prefer his male children to her, may God bring him into Paradise.

Shall I not point out to you the best of virtues? It is your doing good to your daughter when she is returned to you having been divorced by her husband.

God enjoins you to treat women well, for they are your mothers, daughters, aunts.

The rights of women are sacred. See that women are maintained in the rights assigned to them.

Do not prevent your women from coming to the mosque.

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