Onion Peeler..it slices..it dices..
"However, as I said in my first post, I have a virtual mountain of issues that I know has had a big hand in the development of my cancer, but have no idea where to begin peeling this onion."
After reading your story, I would suggest that you look to very specific, emotionally charged situations where you have felt victimized (especially by your sister).
For example, maybe where you percieved her "black hearted slander" would be a good starting point. Be specific about some instances. Feel it, watch your mind and get into a particular scenario and then see what emotions come up around it. Something like when my sister said *blank it made me feel *blank and *blank*. This would translate to the set up phrase....even though my sister said *blank and it made me feel *blank* and *blank* I deeply and completely accept myself. Say it feeling full emotion and with conviction. Then go to the tapping phrase and run the circuit...my sister said *blank* and it made me feel *blank* and *blank*. Do this twice and then recheck the intensity reading. At this point let your attention turn inwards and see what else bubbles up. Maybe it will be more details on this event or maybe another event will come up. Make a new phrase to match this new attention.
Some other phrase starter ideas:
Even though it was pure hell living in a tiny trailer for a year, I deeply and completley accept myself.
Even though my sister plants lies in my daughters head I deeply and completley accept myself.
Even though my sister had kept drumming it into her head that I had abandoned her because I didn't love her and was never going to send for her, I deeply and completley accept myself.
Even though sis kept telling my kids I was just playing the violin and trying to get sympathy out of everyone and trying to control them about my cancer, I deeply and completley accept myself.
Even though my sister seems genuinely glad that my cancer will throw a stick in all our plans and took my daughter's money and says they can stay only two weeks, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I panicked and cursed God for making me live only to have me suffer through cancer I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though I just can't understand how my own sister could feel such hate toward me when I had never done a single thing toward her or her family but show love and kindness, I deeply and completely accept myself.
Even though ...(more emotionally charged issues)...I deeply and completely accept myself.
Now again these are good starting points. Be mindful and aware of what your subconsious uproots and throws out at you. If you feel worse after a round of tapping (this is actually a good sign) pay special attention for what bubbles up..it means there are deeper roots attached to this issue with even more emotional charge behind them.
Write stuff down and just get at it.
Here are some reading links.
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=25&i=14
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=25&i=124
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=29&i=43
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=29&i=49
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=25&i=35
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=29&i=9
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=29&i=34
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=29&i=60
//www.curezone.org/blogs/m.asp?f=25&i=92
Seeing that you currently find yourself in a veritable whirlppol of negative emotions/thought forms, doing "the work" would be very beneficial as well.
Check out Bryon Katie's site fore more info.
"Everything happens for me, not to me."
~Byron Katie~
http://www.thework.org/
Also while you are banging away at EFT and reading these articles, here is another assignment. If you had all the money in the world, and the universe easily reformed itself to give you whatever you wanted (situation etc) and you could manifest whatever talent you needed, what would be your big dream? Really let er rip...no restrictions. Also you feel best when....