Re: My girl is upset with me!

Tom, it seems that this topic has drifted from my problems to your problems. :)

It looks like you and I are having the same difficulty trying to please our women. But at that same time, I believe that it's not what you're doing wrong, but what she's doing wrong. I think that she's carried her emotional baggage with her into her current relationship with you. You should explain to her that you love her a lot, and want to get serious. LIST to her a huge list of all the things that you've done for her. Sometimes, action speaks louder than words, but other times, words make things obvious and clearer. After listing it all off, tell her that in order for things to work out, she needs to let go of the past, and drop that emotional baggage. Otherwise, your relationship is going to fall apart because of insecurity and lack of trust in you. Tell her that just because her ex was a jerk, doesn't mean you will be.

You don't have to do anything crazy to make her happy. I remember reading somewhere, a gift, for men, the bigger it is, the higher the point value. For a woman though, 1 flower = 1 point. 12 roses = 1 point. To women, it's really the thought that counts. You may get a bigger reaction to crazier things, but in the end, it still equals 1 point. :)

As a poster suggested to me once, leave little post-it notes on the fridge or something to remind her how much you love her. It's cute, and it'll make her happy.

But seriously, smooth out your differences and make her realize how much you care first. Otherwise, her judgment will always be clouded, and all she'll remember in the end of the relationship will be all the bad things.

As for myself, my wife seems to have put her issues in the back of her mind, but it's really not going to solve the problem.

Check out my topic on this forum: http://www.neotaku.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?p=147959#147959

It goes into greater detail, and greater disussion. You may also find insights and ideas that may help your own relationship.