Re: I NEED SOME HELP...please

Hi Sarah_England, i know exactly what you're talking about because i'm in the same situation (maybe not as bad) my boyfriend of almost 4 years is addicted to p 0 r n and there are a whole bunch of p 0 r n pictures and sites on his computer. the only different thing is that he doesn't chat with girls online or go out wit them, i guess he just looks at them. you know...it's sad because you confronted him about doing those kind of stuff, and he said that he promises that he'll stop, which is just a lie and he'll never change.
"....i feel betrayed and so hurt and mad...."
i know that feeling. i don't trust my boyfriend anymore, and i'm sure you don't trust yours anymore either if you have to look through his computer and find out what he's up to. me and my boyfriend don't live together, your situation is more complicated. you're stuck with him either way till July 2003. someone once told me that maybe my relationship is just "convenient" for my boyfriend. i think that's how your boyfriend thinks too. my boyfriend tells me not to whine and cry and stuff like that too. i'm sure your boyfriend loves you considering the time that you guys have been together, i don't think he loves you ENOUGH. i read and heard about so many couples getting divorced and broke up because the guys are addicted to p 0 r n. it seems like we let our lives evolve around them too much. i'm trying to go away from him by not spending too much time with him like i used to. they obviously don't have respect for us at all. we know the best that our relationships don't have futures and we also know that if we stay with our guys, we'll be crying everyday for the rest of our lives. it hurts like son of a gun inside when they lie to us and don't keep their promises, and yet we can't do anything because we love them so much. i think realizing that our relationships are not working is the first step. some people can't even realize that so i guess we're better than them. you're gonna have one step at a time backwards to leave him. maybe sometimes half a step. i always tell myself, it's better to realize now than 10 years from now, and it's better to get hurt for a couple of years than getting hurt and crying for the rest of my life. i feel your pain, and i wish you all the best.

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