The thing is, I agree with you except that she isn't a woman, she's a girl and a shy one too. in the beginning she didn't make any moves, I was the one who started it and finally got her to open up about her feelings for me. And also, why is it impossible to perhaps chase your ex back? The only reason why I'm doing this is because I love her and I want to be with her again. I've read about otehr people who used to hate thier exs but got back together with them because they changed their minds about them. I know that in all respects, the logical thing to do would be to find someone new, but I cannot. My heart is still with her. Everything I do, reminds me of her. I can't even work without being reminded of her. This isn't healthy and that is why I think I should reiniiate contact with her. maybe I won't be so bothered by it if I do this. maybe, she'll change her mind. maybe you're wrong and she'll come back to me if I go out and try and ask her. you certain that it's impossible?