Trusting, Loving & Feeling Safe

Trusting, Loving & Feeling Safe







Why trusting in other people, loving them and feeling safe requires you to step outside of your comfort zone, risk getting hurt and accepting the reality that some people are inevitably going to hurt you and break your heart.

In this video coaching newsletter, I discuss an email from a twenty-eight year old female viewer who is struggling with being feminine, vulnerable and loving others due to her emotionally abusive and controlling father. She recognizes that due to the traumatic and unloving nature of the family she grew up in, that this caused her to be shy, sometimes cold and unaffectionate, insecure and even inhibits her ability to let go and enjoy sex. She is very comfortable in her masculine energy, which helps her in her career and in business, but not being comfortable in her feminine energy causes problems in her romantic life. She says that when she interacts with a man she has romantic interest in she changes completely and has a hard time feeling safe and comfortable. During the past year she has been working on her feminine side. She wants to know what she can do to feel less inhibited, more loving and more trusting.

“One way you can help free yourself from fear of being hurt in your relationships, is to accept the fact that as long as you are interacting with other human beings, some of them are going to hurt you, say or do mean things to you and getting your heart broken is just an inevitable reality of life. The key is to be aware of and decide what meaning you assign to the circumstances of your life. It’s smart to ask yourself empowering questions like, “What’s good about this? How can I learn from this? How can this experience make me better going forward? Etc.” If you ask yourself good quality questions, even about negative events or experiences, you force your brain to come up with positive & empowering answers. It’s impossible to avoid feeling pain or negative emotions in life, but by being aware of your self-talk and asking yourself good quality questions, you can remain in control of your outcome and destiny, instead of being reactionary and feeling like life happens to you instead of for you.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne




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