Re: Please help me! I want to last longer for my gf!

Elmosfire, I'm sorry that you're having this issue.

First issue is that you've substituted p 0 r n o g r a p h y for a stress release - terrible excuse, but it's an addiction just like any other.

The worst thing about p 0 r n is how it affects the brain on a primal level. Because we are hard-wired for certain responses, p 0 r n desensitizes ANY individual (male or female) to real and healthy sexual activities. We need to accept that fact for what it is and stop trying to rationalize this.

Circumcision is a hot debate - people who are uncircumcised claim one thing, while circumcised people claim other things. Neither can know what the other experiences, obviously, so this issue is 100% moot.

Now, as far as your girlfriend goes, it would be very, very, very unwise to seek out "medical" alternatives to premature ejaculation - like v1agra, or other similar drugs. This also includes "natural" or "herbal" remedies. In your situation, premature ejaculation will be directly associated with p 0 r n and there are ways to manage this, over time, using imagination, patience, and abstaining from p 0 r n, completely.

In the meantime, I would suggest a couple of things to consider. There are penis rings that may (or, may not) help to sustain an erection. There's also the option of longer foreplay, using a dildo with your g/f, and learning how to make love, rather than attempting to recreate what you've viewed in p 0 r n. Making love - good, solid, and sensual love is a very different activity than slamming the shit out of someone's parts. What you've seen depicted in p 0 r n is NOT what women generally enjoy - they put up with it for the sake of their partners' enjoyment, but that's not what brings them to ogasm.

I would also recommend that you purchase, "The Joy Of Sex," to read and learn about healthy and safe sexual interaction.

Most importantly, lay off of the p 0 r n. It's an addiction and I don't give one steaming fart in a windstorm how many people out there object to this fact: it does NOT enhance anyone's love live. Today's p 0 r n is not the same as it was 50 years ago - it is more violent, more violating, and objectifying. Eroticism is a far different thing than p 0 r n - eroticism can be titillating, enticing, and thoroughly delicious.

Good luck to you.