Re: tolerate verbal abuse from grown up kids?

For anyone who is emerging from an abusive relationship, "acceptance" is one of the most challenging aspects of our recovery.

"...She isnt aware of what she does and say, and will never change..." The role of "acceptance" in this instance is that she absolutely does know that what she is doing is 100% disrespectful, rude, and very hurtful and she simply doesn't care.

Now.....having typed that, it's not an easy fact to accept and "acceptance" does not, in any way, obligate us to "like" whatever the facts are. The facts are benign - they don't have an agenda. They are what they are. And, "accepting" the facts as they are is a truly liberating endeavor because it removes the burden of "fixing" or "changing" someone else's behaviors as if those behaviors somehow belong to us, and not the person doing whatever it is that they're doing.

"Acceptance" is when I finally reached the point where I realized that I didn't have the power or control to bargain for, wish for, demand, force, or hope for more pleasant or comfortable facts. Once I got to that point, I was able to let go, walk away, and focus on fixing myself instead of other people.

I wish you the very, very best in this endeavor. It's not easy to have a child like this, and I know this from personal experience.

Brightest blessings to you