I was molested and abused

I'm new to this forum, so, excuse me if I break any rules.
I am 14 years old, and I've arguably experienced almost all types of abuse as a child. A little background: my mother and sisters were mean to me, though they could be nice. Yes, there were times when I behaved badly, but I was only reciprocating. I used the past tense because I try to avoid talking to them now.
I remember being choked by my eldest sister, she would leave marks on my neck, and all times, with no exception, when there was some sort of argument, my mother would not do anything to avoid it from happening again. She would always complain about how we wore her down. She used to spank me. She also neglected our feelings by ignoring them, she never asked herself why we argued a lot. Once, I was very little and, I don't know why, she said something that translates to something like: "Screw you!".
As if those things were not enough, she molested me once 3 years ago, not in a sexual way though. We were having an argument and were both furious, I don't remember why, then she touched my penis and questioned me about my masculinity. It was nothing sexual, but she humiliated me. I didn't know how bad it was so I didn't contest her. By the way, I never had a sex talk and she never taught me about sexual assault. Conversely, my mother is a very hard-working woman, can be nice and lovely, and claims to love me, but I cannot simply forget the bad things she did.
My uncle 'molested' me once, too. He walked past me, touched my groin and made a noise seemingly mocking. I got a little pissed about that, nevertheless, kept it inside. Remember, I was never told that no one can touch in a way that makes you uncomfortable.
There were two other times: One happened 2-2.5 years ago, a boy was behind me and sorted of thrusted and rubbed his pelvis against my butt. The other occurred 1.5 year ago, another boy, who bullied me, held a plastic bottle near his groin, as if it were his penis, and kind of molested me for a couple seconds.
During all those times, I remained stoical and no one knows. I've fully recovered from those things and I'm very happy, but I wonder, were those events beneficial after all? Sacrifices for a greater good? A price to pay to have a strong personality? I need to wait years to know, but I think they were necessary sacrifices.