You are right. However not ALL men are such fools.
In my opinion, women need to tell their man exactly what they need to get off. Then demonstrate to him if necessary. Most men are eager to learn if given instructions.
My problem with women is that they never said a word, never requested that I rub their clitoris, and never said they needed more. For many years, I was the typical 3 minute idiot man, not knowing any better. My advice to women is to SPEAK UP and teach their man how to give ogasms. Trust me, most men will be eager to learn. If you don't teach them, who will? p 0 r n is not going to do it.
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