Re: 12 year old Step daughter caught doing funny stuff with my almost 2 year old daughter.

First of all, you need to make a connection to the step daughter so you can talk to her. She is still very young and if you blame her straight forward she will become defensive and secretive not to mention, she will become more bitter..You need to spend time with her on a regular basis. Do not put that girl’s trouble on meds and therapy yet as you can help her, right? She basically needs to learn some life skills that she missed to learn due to , sorry to highlight that, family education. If you are be able to get connection with her( after a numerous hours of spending together and doing different things)just talk about what you have seen she was doing with baby. Describe it in words with no emotional exclamations. Just present a fact. Then ask her gently, what she thinks she was trying to do? Basically you need to introduce her to her sexual feelings that she probably started to have in an intense level. Then you need to discuss the ways to express her sexual needs in appropriate way. You also need to bring up the subject of learning the ability to resist temptation, in other words, learn to do right things while ignoring wrong thoughts coming to our mind and urging us to act on them for the personal satisfaction. She needs to learn how to redirect her wrong urges.. If you have more questions, you can freely ask here...
What this girl needs now is an adult who is a role model to her, who is concerned about her: her diet, her regime, , her emotional state. Someone, who she can talk to. It is not easy to be that role model but before adults label her with ADHD or OCD person they need to connect and see that she is more than just ADHD teenager.
You have said, you live with her dad. I can imagine what tremendous stress she was going through before and after divorce her parents had. Is her mother in a good emotional balance nowÉ
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