Re: 12 year old Step daughter caught doing funny stuff with my almost 2 year old daughter.

Thank you so much! I did some crazy Google searches and came up with some articles and found one on here that you had responded to and I loved the responses and advice you gave. I chose to post in this site hoping you could give women insight to my situation also. My husband was never married to their Mom. In fact me and him were in a solid live together 2 year relationship and then were apart for 10 years and that's when he had the girls. It was always a very up down relationship with him and the girls mom and very on and off. I am white, so is she and my husband is black. She is very "ghetto" which for me is difficult to deal with. My husband never had a father and was raised by his mom and grandma until his mom passed from cancer during his junior year of high school. My husband is hard working dedicated provider. He does not drink, smoke, or do any type of drugs. He has always been a very quiet reserved person . I however am a very organized, outspoken, have to have control of the situation individual. I was raised in a 2 parent christian home until my parents divorced my senior year. I had an awesome dad who could fix anything. People always came to him for advice. He passed in 98. I work at a mens high behavior group home, been there 7 years. I have a huge support system of friends and family, my husband does not. He pretty much has no one but me. I haven't had the chance to have a conversation about the aftermath of this and our plans on what needs to happen. Hoping tonight as I had today off. I am almost 40. I had gastric bypass surgery and got pregnant with my lil miracle baby 8 months later. I tried for years and years to have a baby with no success. So she really is my life. And I care dearly about my stepdaughters and their futures...but this is my flesh and blood child I carried for 9 months. I will protect her with my life!!! So no matter how much I love my husband and step kids... her safety WILL come first. I never ever ever in my wildest thoughts ever imagined myself in this situation. I'm a very hands on attentive mother. I'm still shaking my head as to how this happened! I'm working on our safety measures for the one evening the girls will be here with their dad while I'm at work and at this point I'm thinking my baby will be staying with my mom or her godmother. My husband is also older and out of shape and tends to put a lot of the responsibilities on the girls when I'm not here. And that just can't happen anymore. there's never been a court order custody or visitation issues because they've just always worked together. But since we have gotten back together and got married she has had some very childish and selfish outbursts. We have went round and round about me wanting this stuff in writing and for him to get at least joint custody cause she loves to play the I have full custody and will do what I want card.its just all so very overwhelming and frustrating! Tweet