Re: Just turned 18 dealing w rape and molest help

I'm sorry you've had to go through so much....

The suggestion to seek therapy sounds clichéd, but I would do it immediately if you can.

You seem to be drawn to the type of guy who is not trustworthy. It's not your fault, it's a real phenomenon. I'm no expert, but read up on it and learn to recognize your own patterns of attraction and trust. It's fantastic that you have a wonderful fiancé on your side.

I also strongly second earlgrey's suggestion to learn a martial art - and not just learn it, but dedicate yourself to it. Protection devices like pepper spray can help in some cases, but don't rely on them - chances are they won't be at hand when you need them. I've been a martial artist for over six years and it's made me a different (and far better) person. I've never been assaulted in any way, and I can still say without hesitation that it's the best thing I've ever done for myself. Do everything in your power to ensure that you will never be a victim again, and I believe your sense of fear will gradually diminish. It will take time...you've been through more than I can imagine...but I believe it can happen.

Best wishes to you....