Re: My story with NPD ex

Get that degree, girl, and go for the gold with a post-grad!

To answer the questions, I'm going to respond with what I have learned through my own experiences of over 1/2 century of dealing with toxic and sociopathic individuals.

#1: People who insist upon maintaining "friendships" with former lovers do it for a variety of reasons, but the main one is to keep a fish on the hook, at all times. The rest - the drama/trauma - plays itself out whichever way he jerks the line with the hook in the target's mouth.

#2: A NPD or spath/ppath person doesn't necessarily "know" that the are toxic. They know that their choices and actions cause damages, but they don't wake up and plan out their crazymaking and devaluation of their targets.

#3: He's pretty much set his pattern of maintaining contact with previous exes - you won't likely be treated any differently than they were. "No Contact" resolves that in-road with finality and is very effective.

You're going to be just fine and good luck with your studies! Maybe, you'll end up being a trauma specialist....who knows? :-D

Best wishes