Your friend has a serious issue he need to see and opthamologist. It could be mites, it could be a fungus, who knows? He might brush his eyelids with natural apple cider vineger or Honey , Caster oil/ Vitamin E mix to make his eyelashes grow back. e needs to see a mental health herapist or psychologist regarding his fears of going to see someone. Look no one wants to go to the doctor but sometimes you have too. DO NOT wait when it comes to your eyes.